Part One of my evaluation of Justin Welby, former Archbishop of Canterbury, focused on his recent comments expressing his support for LGBT.
Justin has turn out to be something of a cheerleader for ‘faithful and committed’ same-sex relationships, in response to his recent speech to the Cambridge Union.
It follows Justin’s 2024 assertion that sex is to be inside a ‘committed’ (partnership or marriage) relationship “whether straight or gay”.
Perils to traditional marriage
Trendy married heterosexuals at the moment are exploring ‘monogamish’ or ‘open marriage’. They might achieve this because they imagine the mainstream media propaganda about how it is going to save a drained, boring marriage or give an exquisite boost to a reasonably good one – ‘the grass is at all times greener’ is a vital component here.
Sadly, all of it sounds reasonable and plausible. The emerging role of bisexuality (those that have partners of each sexes) can be apparent.
As some would realise, if married gays can ‘have their cake and eat it’ – i.e. ‘play’ (as they put it) with outside partners, sometimes alone, other times together, and so they appear to flourish, why can’t everyone else?!
But as Part One noted, while within the fundamental, gay couples feel the necessity to ‘open up’ over time – or just finish the connection – it tends to be different for heterosexual couples.
Open marriage, end of marriage
Nena O’Neill’s pathbreaking Open Marriage: A New Life Style for Couples (1972) was fabulously successful within the West and encouraged countless ‘progressives’ to ‘explore’ these recent relationships for themselves.
However, few ‘open’ couples were still married many years on, but that news was largely buried. It didn’t fit the politically correct narrative and so few would have known the sad end result. Though these couples might need divorced anyway, opening their marriage didn’t prove a boon as is so often claimed within the mainstream media – see the work of Dr Judith Reisman for more on this.
As sociologist Stanley Kurtz once noted [my own notes are added in brackets],
“So the mere social statement that marriage doesn’t mean monogamy [or exclusivity] is where the true danger of legalized gay-marriage [with its ‘monogamish’ norms and mores] and polyamory lie.
“And the collapse of consensus about shared social institutions really does affect us as individuals [emphasis added].
“Once we as a society now not take it as a right that marriage means monogamy, chances are you’ll not resolve to go away your wife. But chances are you’ll be more likely to offer in to the temptation of an affair. And that might mean the tip of your marriage, whether that’s what you wanted going into the affair or not.”
The next frontier after LGBTQ+
We find that there are Christian polyamorous couples now ‘coming out’. If slightly love is sweet, surely more love is healthier! And if slightly sex is sweet, a lot of sex might be higher (so long as certain conditions are met, so that they argue). What’s not to love?
Take Jennifer Martin, one among the more articulate US poly (formerly evangelical) Christian advocates who’s delighted her United Church of Christ denomination is so ‘enlightened’.
“Polyamory has turn out to be the subsequent frontier, and lots of of those self same congregations now welcome non-monogamous families into their folds as well [as LGBTQ+ individuals] …
“As a Christian, it’s also vital that we be Christ-like: meaning, that we put others’ needs above our own. Each relationship and every sexual encounter is sacred, and you must treat it as such.
“That doesn’t mean you’ve got to disclaim yourself casual sex, however it does mean that you might want to ask yourself if the encounter is healthy for you, healthy for the opposite person, and healthy for each of you together.”
Not what Jennifer has in mind
The mind boggles at what Jennifer (who says she is legally married with three other partners) is definitely signing on to and publicly promoting. In fact, many of the poly promoters on the premier global poly site, Polyinthemedia.blogspot.com, are smiling, blissful, attractive younger people (i.e. under 40), most (unlike mother of two, Jennifer) without children.
It’s great publicity, but what about permanence?
Quora answers the query, ‘How long do poly relationships last? On average, about 5-8 years’ (accessed 5 July 2025), which is within the ballpark of one other large Canadian study which found ‘the typical relationship length was nine years for closest partners and a couple of.5 years for second-closest partners’.
In fact, polyamory has various downsides as noted by the Coalition for Marriage which quotes research from ‘The Problem With Polyamory: A Social Scientific View’.
“Thus, the evidence from the anthropological and historical record, in addition to evidence of problems related to polyamory corresponding to jealousy and relationship disruption, suggests that polyamory is unlikely to be viable in the long run, and can go the best way of the swinging relationships of the Nineteen Sixties.
“This evidence further suggests that polyamory is more likely to leave an enormous amount of non-public chaos, misery, and family smash in its wake.”
I lack the space to enter the physical points of why Jennifer’s advice is flawed but see my article, ‘The dangerous drive to sanitise and normalise polyamory’, which describes how multiple sex partnerships appear to hinder one’s ability to be exclusive: behaviours alter brains, hormones and the means of sexual ‘gluing’.
In conclusion
In Part One we explored the mostly unknown downsides of ‘committed’ gay partnerships and marriage, and in Part Two here, we now have taken stock of the propaganda around ‘open marriage’ and polyamory, noting the roadkill – also mostly unknown.
Many are responsible, from the ideologically-driven mainstream media to an ignorant, compromised Church. However, naïve, sanitised versions of each same-sex partnerships and ‘open marriage’ and polyamory, are duping the gullible while leaders corresponding to Justin publicly promote the previous and appear blind to the latter.
Truly caring, informed, pastoral and biblical leadership has never been more in demand, yet where is it to be found?
God wants our greatest – life in all its fulness! Yet these counterfeits of affection and relationship are damaging even those within the Church, while leaders ignore each the perils and the roadkill. And that’s what is so tragic – all of the roadkill.
Who are the loving ones now?
Dr Lisa Nolland is CEO of the Marriage, Sex and Culture (MSC), Group in London.
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