Marriage is a lovely journey stuffed with ups and downs, joys and challenges. At the core of a robust and thriving marriage lies a virtue that always goes unnoticed yet plays an important role in fostering unity and safety: humility.
My wife, Jennifer, and I actually have discovered, through our own experiences, that humility isn’t just a top quality but a necessity in constructing a robust marriage.
The Bible is stuffed with scriptures on humility which have guided our relationship:
Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves (Philippians 2:3).
Humility is the fear of the Lord; its wages are riches and honor and life (Proverbs 22:4).
He has shown you, O mortal, what is nice. And what does the Lord require of you? To act justly and to like mercy and to walk humbly along with your God (Micah 6:8).
These are only a couple of of the numerous scriptures which have been a robust reminder for us to walk in humility, recognizing our need for Jesus and His love.
Let’s explore how humility results in unity and safety, drawing from our personal story and the timeless wisdom of the Word of God.
The Power of Humility in Marriage
Humility is walking in the liberty from pride. It’s a modest view of oneself, a posture of submission and sacrifice. In our marriage, we have learned that humility is a potent method to draw near to one another and to God.
It’s about recognizing our imperfections and agreeing to be humble about them with one another. Rather than only seeing their weakness or failure we are able to have understanding, patience, and forgiveness since that’s what we ourselves desire and know we want it just the identical.
Walking in humility puts the interest of your spouse, above your individual. It’s being willing to serve them and love them and provides and provides some more.
This ought to be no secret and no surprise, but when a spouse walks in humility, there might be more trust, love, and security in the wedding. Humility is non-negotiable.
Unity Through Humility
Unity is a lovely picture of humility in motion. A husband and wife, walking in humility, create a connection that goes beyond mere agreement or compromise.
Humility allows for more conversation, deeper understanding of your spouse, and the power to really lower yourself while raising your spouse up.
When each husband and wife do that, there’s a tremendous unity that begins to form where everybody is in a pattern of putting their spouse above themselves.
In fact, unity is unimaginable with humility. You cannot be reconciled to God without humbling yourself before him and you can not have unity along with your spouse without putting some level of humility.
Safety Through Humility
There is deep safety in humility. It’s about creating an environment where each partners feel secure and valued.
Anytime I’ve known individuals with a form of innate sense of pridefulness, who consider they’re never mistaken or can do no mistaken, that produces a really unsafe and insecure relationship.
That pridefulness makes it nearly unimaginable to share your heart with them. In marriage, we’ve got a chance to create a protected and secure environment where your spouse doesn’t should fear that your pride goes to get in the best way of closeness and love.
Humility has been a robust force in our marriage. It has diffused tensions, restored relationships, and brought light into our lives. Humility is something that lifts not only your spouse but your whole family up.
Building a robust marriage requires love and commitment, and humility is required for each. We have seen firsthand how humility results in unity and safety in our relationship.
It’s a lifelong journey that must start with you praying and asking God to humble your heart before Him and asking him to show you when and how one can walk in a humble way along with your spouse.
Lastly, pray that God would also teach your spouse to be humble, by your example and thru His Word.
Walk humbly along with your spouse today and watch what God does in your marriage.
For further reading:
How to Pray for Your Wife: 6 Prayers Influenced by How Jesus Prayed for His Church
Christian Community: The Secret Ingredient for a Stronger Marriage
How to Pray for Your Husband: 8 Specific Areas to Pray Over Your Husband
Building a Strong Foundation: 6 Divine Callings for Every Marriage
How to Make Bible Time a Family Affair
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Related Podcast Resource: 5 Ways to C.O.V.E.R. Your Marriage in Prayer
One of an important things you may do to your marriage is to hope to your marriage. Learning communication skills, conflict resolution techniques and intimacy hacks are great. However, when you’re leaving your marriage uncovered by failing to hope to your spouse and your marriage, it’ll all the time be vulnerable to attacks. Prayer is a necessary guiding tool to get you and your spouse on the identical page and create unity in your marriage. In this episode of Real Relationship Talk, Dana Che shares her acronym C.O.V.E.R., which teaches you how one can specifically pray to your marriage. To listen, just click the play button below:
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