As I drove to work one cold and rainy Thursday morning, I saw my midwife’s name pop up on caller ID. My heart sank, and something inside told me it wouldn’t be excellent news. As she uttered the words “there was no heartbeat within the ultrasound,” I set free a deep groan I’ve never expressed before. Tears flooded my eyes and blurred the road before me. I knew, immediately, my world had been turned the other way up and it could never be the identical.
For two weeks, I carried my baby until I birthed his or her small body. Then, lower than every week later, I buried my baby in my grandfather’s wildflower field on the farm. Those days were long, and my understanding short.
Nothing can prepare you for the lack of a toddler—absolutely nothing on this world. And when grief comes crashing in like a tidal wave and anger sets in, for a lot of, our rationale desires to move God from ally to enemy of our hearts. Those few weeks were the darkest in my life.
I would like to say, at the beginning, in the event you’ve lost a toddler, I’m so deeply sorry in your loss. No words could ever heal your heart, and no time passed will erase the pain you’re experiencing.
I know the way normal it’s for anger and doubt to set in—how easy it’s to start out questioning God’s goodness. Part of the healing process goes through the varied emotions that accompany grief, and definitely, God can handle it. But what do you do with all that hurt, and the way do you process all of the questions bombarding your fragile spirit? How do you progress on from that place of despair?
I discovered hope within the darkness.I discovered comfort in knowing that my baby is with Jesus. That he or she is going to never need to know loss, pain, cold, grief, disappointment, or sorrow. That all their soul will ever know is joy and the presence of God. And although I won’t give you the chance to embrace this beautiful soul now, sooner or later I’ll. Our meeting is just delayed, not stolen.
If you’re keen on Jesus and have committed your life to following Him, you then could be confident in knowing that sooner or later you’ll meet your miscarried baby. Let’s explore just a few passages that remind us of this truth.
1. Every human being conceived is made within the image of God.
“So God created mankind in his own image, within the image of God he created them…” (Genesis 1:27)
Your baby was created by the Father in His image. And His image likeness is goodness and love. Furthermore, Jesus got here for all people, so His death and resurrection was a sacrifice not only for the born, however the unborn. Your child is redeemable.
2. There is grace for infants and youngsters.
There is this concept called the “age of accountability” that’s widely accepted by Christians. It states that there’s grace for kids until they arrive to an age of truly understanding right and unsuitable—to give you the chance to grasp grace and salvation. Though this term will not be specifically utilized in Scripture, there are just a few verses that support it.
In 2 Samuel 12, David loses his infant son. When he learns of the kid’s death, his servants are surprised that he gets up from his fasting and weeping. Then David expresses, “…I shall go to him, but he won’t return to me” (2 Samuel 12:23). This implies that David believed he can be reunited along with his child sooner or later.
In one other supporting passage, Isaiah 7:15-16 indicates that children aren’t held answerable for their actions until they reach a certain age. That age will not be given in Scripture, and it’s likely different for every child. However, a baby is definitely considered innocent by this reference.
In one last reference, we see in Luke 18 that Jesus loves children. He says this as he blesses them in verses 15-16: “People were also bringing babies to Jesus for him to position his hands on them. When the disciples saw this, they rebuked them. But Jesus called the kids to him and said, ‘Let the little children come to me, and don’t hinder them, for the dominion of God belongs to similar to these.’”
Jesus says that these babies belong to the dominion of God. Why would Jesus bless a baby in the event that they were destined for hell?
3. God works all things together for good.
“Meanwhile, the moment we get drained within the waiting, God’s Spirit is true alongside helping us along. If we don’t know the way or what to wish, it doesn’t matter. He does our praying in and for us, making prayer out of our wordless sighs, our aching groans. He knows us much better than we all know ourselves, knows our pregnant condition, and keeps us present before God. That’s why we could be so sure that each detail in our lives of affection for God is worked into something good.” (Romans 8:26-28)
We see throughout the Bible God’s care and style for infants and youngsters. This extends to the unborn, who were created within the image of God. Your unborn baby is in heaven with Jesus, and that’s a joy we don’t know yet. But sooner or later, for individuals who are believers, we will sit up for a reunion in His presence.
Please know, although the darkness is overwhelming, there’s light. There is goodness and hope to be found. There is a ravishing and loving God who desires to scoop you up in His strong arms and hold you close up.
Although, in dark times, we frequently need to draw back from Him, it’s in these trials that we must press in even harder. Pressing in is where we discover Him and listen to His voice—see His goodness. Because God is nice and does work all things for good, even when we will’t see it.
Believe me, I comprehend it’s hard to see how good can come out of your loss. Who knows why your baby passed on but God? Whatever the case could also be, you continue to get to be the parent of that stunning child. And, nonetheless temporary, your child’s life brought joy to this world.
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