4 Ways Being a Submissive Wife Does NOT Mean Being a Doormat

“Wives, undergo your individual husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the pinnacle of the wife at the same time as Christ is the pinnacle of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior. Now because the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in every little thing to their husbands.” – Ephesians 5:22-24

This verse can easily spark heated discussion—and for good reason, seeing that it is commonly misunderstood, taken out of context, and used as a weapon. If you’re in a wedding where your husband lords his headship over you in an ungodly manner, I urge you to hunt smart counsel out of your pastors and elders.

The wives I can be addressing listed below are those whose husbands aren’t lording their headship over them. Rather, they’ve fallen prey to faulty teaching and do not know their very own rights as children of God and as partners to their husbands. Join me in 4 ways being a submissive wife does NOT mean being a doormat.

1. Letting Your Husband Be Your Hero

Letting your husband be your hero doesn’t suggest you’re a struggling damsel in distress that needs saving. This doesn’t mean you could have to attend and let him do all of the heavy lifting or that you could have to fake being unable to open a jar of food to stroke his ego (yes, I used to be on condition that advice as a young bride).

What this does mean is recognizing that your husband was designed and called to emulate the best of heroes, Jesus Christ. When we take into consideration heroes, from fictional characters to real-life soldiers, firefighters, and cops, we see that they share a standard ambition—to personally sacrifice with a view to put others first.

Ephesians 5:25 tells husbands to “love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her.” This is a high calling. It is greater than saying, “Husbands, in a life-or-death situation, give your life to your wife.” It is saying, “Sacrifice your very being for the sake of your wife, the best way that Jesus did for the church.”

Again, wives, do not be fooled into pondering you may’t be strong and capable with a view to see your husband as your hero. See your husband as your hero because that’s who he is supposed to be. He is supposed to assist sanctify you and present you as spotless and blameless before the Lord (Ephesians 5:27).