3 Things You Need to Know in regards to the Devastating Impact of an Affair

Is there life after an affair? As devastating and destructive as an affair will be, there continues to be hope for restoration and reconciliation. If you’re someone that the sin of adultery has been committed against you by your spouse, I’d agree that biblically, you’ve gotten grounds for divorce. However, I’d remind you that there are also grounds for forgiveness. I understand that is far easier to say than to experience. If you’re someone who has committed adultery and the sin is upon you, I’d remind you that God knows well tips on how to restore what has been broken and shattered by sinful and selfish decisions.

In Psalm 51, the sins of adultery and murder had finally caught up with King David since the prophet Nathan boldly confronted him. David convinced himself that he could hide his sin. Don’t we do the identical? Like David, we persuade ourselves that we will manage our sinful decisions. Yet sin all the time has a way of catching as much as us and delivering its price tag. In David’s case, he paid a hefty price. All the while, David was a person after God’s own heart (1 Samuel 13:14). When he hit the bottom place of his life, he clung to the Lord.  

“Have mercy on me, O God, based on your steadfast love; based on your abundant mercy, blot out my transgressions. Wash me thoroughly from my iniquity, and cleanse me from my sin! For I do know my transgressions and my sin is ever before me.” Psalm 51:1-3

According to the Mosaic Law, David had no likelihood at forgiveness. David sinned intentionally with a high hand for he understood full well what he was doing. Atoning sacrifices were just for unintentional sins (Hebrews 9:7). No sacrifices were available to forgive David’s sins. This is why he wrote, 

“For you won’t enjoyment of sacrifice, or I’d give it; you won’t be pleased with a burnt offering. The sacrifices of God are a broken spirit; a broken and contrite heart, O God, you won’t despise.” – Psalm 51:16-17 

David looked beyond the Mosaic Law to the steadfast love of the Lord. Friends, you may as well. Whether you’ve gotten been sinned against or you’re the one who has committed the sin, there’s hope within the steadfast love of God.

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Chad Roberts is the founder and lead pastor of Preaching Christ Church. He is the creator and Bible teacher for Awakened to Grace. He has authored Calling on the Name of the Lord, Awakened to Grace, and He’s within the Waiting. He has traveled through forty countries, sharing the Gospel, and training leaders. When the unexpected storm of blindness slammed into Chad’s life in 2018, he had a choice to make. He could resign to the lifetime of disability or he could go forward trusting God with the unknown. He couldn’t have continued on without the support of his amazing wife of over fifteen years, Sadie. Their 4 children, Piper, Emmy, Hudson, and John Mark, are their best joys. They live just outside the Great Smoky Mountains in Kingsport, Tennessee.

Chad’s pastoral profession has not been defined by blindness. Rather, it’s his clear, biblical teaching that continues to grow an audience. He has traveled through forty nations, training pastors and strengthening churches.

Today, Chad teaches people to trust a God they can’t see. His days are crammed with the things he loves most: leading, speaking, writing, and after all, coffee! He is a spiritual content creator. By God’s grace, he’s emerging as a trusted spiritual voice in people’s lives. Chad can have blindness, but blindness doesn’t have him.